Originally when I started this blog, I was going to talk
more about the awkward encounters I have. As you may have read from earlier
posts, my interactions with people can be extremely awkward. I really have no
idea how I attract these situations, but all I can do is laugh in disbelief.
As the holiday season approaches, one of my most awkward encounters that I haven’t shared comes
to my mind. I didn’t share this encounter earlier because I knew that people
would be able to determine the party involved and there may be some embarrassment.
I think that the situation is far enough removed, so I feel comfortable
divulging this story now. Believe me, it’s a good one. You’ll want to read on.
I’m not sure if I could even make this up… so awkward. Well, I don’t want to
build it up so you are expecting something amazing, so nevermind. It’s not
awkward at all. It’s completely comfortable and a normal situation that happens
to everyone. Read on anyway…
I was offered a job at a university in Houston fresh out of
grad school, so I headed out to Texas without doing any sort of research on the
place. I didn’t know anyone there, but I’m used to that sort of thing. I actually
like it. You will probably see a trend that I can’t stay somewhere for more
than about 3 years before I feel pretty antsy and need to find a new place. I
hear what you are saying as you are reading this, but commitment issues,
schmemmitment issues. It is what it is.
For those of you that don’t move to new places without
really knowing people, you should know that it’s not always easy to make
friends. Sure, you are going to point out that you made a gazillion friends
when you went off to college and you didn’t know anyone there. Well Mr.
Friendly, don’t be so proud of that, everyone did. Way to go. Once you don’t
have the connection of college, it is more challenging to meet people as a
young professional in a new city. Just take that as a universal truth. There
are things you can do to meet people… join alumni clubs, get to know your
coworkers, participate in city sports leagues, etc. It just takes a little more
getting out there. As a new person in a city where you don’t know anyone, there’s
one rule that you have to live by: If someone invites you to do something, you
do it. You have no friends, so there is no reason you should turn down someone
when they are trying to be your friend.
This rule is something that I have lived by for quite some time. It is
why I have found some of my best friends, but it also may be what creates my
awkward encounters. Which leads me to my story…
When I started working in Houston, my job was to plan
events. Many of these events require technical assistance. The manager of the
AV department (we will now call him AV Guy) was someone that I had to work with
on a pretty regular basis. He was a nice guy. He was always helpful and
friendly. About a month in to working in Houston, he asked me out. Well, as I
mentioned before, the one rule that I live by is that you don’t say no when you
move to a new place, know no one, and someone offers to be your friend. Sure, I
knew that he may have been interested in me a little more than just as friends,
but I couldn’t completely tell, and that’s something that can always be
clarified later, right? So I said yes, I’d go out with him. We went to dinner
and had a nice time. After dinner, we went to a local coffee shop to continue
our conversation. Then the date ended. That was also the time that I was
certain that I would never want to go out with him again. AV Guy was nice, but
there wasn’t anything there. I could tell on the date he was interested in
dating me and I didn’t want to lead him on, so the next time he asked me out, I
told him I wasn’t interested. We grabbed lunch about once a month after that,
but that was about it. Innocent enough, right? We had to work together, so I
didn’t want to be mean, and as I said, he was a nice guy. Just no interest. At
this point in the story, you are probably thinking “wow, this story is not
awkward at all”. You’re right, it’s not. The awkward part comes next.
In mid-December (about 3.5 months after the original date),
AV Guy contacts me and asks if I want to join him and some friends for dinner
and an improve comedy show. By this time, I have decided that he gets that we
are not going to be in any sort of relationship and that we are just friends.
He said it was a group of friends (8-10 people) and it should be a good time. I
didn’t have anything going on that day (I mean, I was still new in town and
didn’t know a ton of people… PLUS maybe he had some fun friends that I would want
to hang out with later, right?). So I agree to go. I didn’t know my way around
Houston very well still, so I met AV Guy at a Starbucks, then he drove us to
the restaurant from there. The traffic was super bad and we were running really
late. He was kinda freaking out about it and was on the phone with some guy
letting him know we were coming and that we would be there soon.
We finally get to the restaurant after a tense car ride and I
am ready to get to my seat and drink a nice cold drink (I’m practicing my order
in my head: margarita, on the rocks, with salt). We walk up to the hostess and
AV Guy tells her we are meeting with a group. She asks for the name with the
group and he says Houston Baptist Church (ok, so I’m making up the name of the
church, but he named a Baptist church). This is CLEARLY a surprise to me. It
also crushes my dreams of drinking a margarita. She points us to the back party
room. Yes, the private room in the back of the restaurant. I look at AV guy to
see if he is going to provide some sort of explanation for this, but he just
points to the back room. Dear God, what am I getting in to? We walk in to the
back party room. The room is decorated for Christmas, the tables are arranged
in a U shape and filled with people varying in age from 25-65. I am sure there
are more details about the room, but they all faded in the background compared
to all the eyes staring at us as we walked in.
They greeted AV Guy with great excitement and seemed to eye
me up and down for about a minute. Because we arrived so late, they are already
eating. All I want to do is melt in to the floor so I didn’t have to have all
these eyes staring at me. There are two available seats at the U shaped table arrangement,
but they are not next to each other. I have no problem with that because all I
wanted to do was sit down so people stop staring at me and it didn’t matter
where that would happen. I started heading to a seat on the other side of the
room when AV Guy said that wouldn’t work. Rather than asking everyone to shift
around, it sounded like a better idea to him to grab a table from outside the
party room. He caused a huge commotion trying to fit it through the doorway,
which clearly did not stop people from staring. Whatever. At least I got to sit
down. We ordered and ate. I tried to ask what was going on and all AV Guy said
was that these were all his friends from church. At that point in time I
noticed the glittery holiday decorations and gifts on all the tables. All I’m
thinking is that I still have to go to an improve show after this fiasco. Is
there a way that I can get out of this situation gracefully? I could fake sick,
but AV Guy drove. Could I call a cab? Could I injure myself badly enough that
an ambulance needs to come and get me?
As these ideas are flying through my head, a man in the
group stands up and starts talking to the group. He introduces himself and says
that he is so happy that all the Houston Baptist Church AV family could get
together to celebrate the holidays. I have now figured out that this group is
comprised of all the people that do the AV for the Houston Baptist Church and
their partners. Ok, so AV Guy felt like he needed someone to come with him to
this, I get it. It would have been nice for him to tell me this ahead of time.
The speaker continues talking about how great it is for all of them to be
together and how they all work so hard. He then mentions that he wants to go
around the room with introductions. Really? Well here goes. Luckily, they start
on the other side of the room, so I can see how this is going. I considered
slipping out to the restroom, but the door was on the other side of the room
and that commotion would have drawn too much attention.
Introductions start with old man Bob. He introduces himself
(everyone already seems to know him) and then he introduces, as he says, “his
arm candy” aka his wife, Shirley. Next comes middle aged John and he introduces
his wife Tiffany (and the baby in her belly). This continues around the table.
I am completely relieved. I will not have to talk in front of all of these
people. AV Guy will introduce me. Whew! I’m slightly nervous that he is going
to introduce me as something other than his friend or his coworker, but if that’s
the worst, then I can deal with that later. So it’s AV Guy’s turn to introduce.
He stands up and says “I’m AV Guy” then sits down and looks at me. WHAT?!?
Everyone looks at me as if I must have just strolled in to this party after AV Guy
and he doesn’t know me at all. So I stand up and introduce myself, then look
over at AV Guy and say “I work with him”. I didn’t even want to say that we
were friends by that time. I was sure that we weren’t going to be friends after
this situation. Announcer guy goes on to say that as a thank you for all the AV
staff’s hard work throughout the year, or for those of us that supported an AV
worker, we should open the gifts on the table. Since we had an extra table,
there weren’t gifts on our table. They brought a gift over to AV Guy and he was
gracious and offered it to me first. I told him that it’s his thing and he
should have it. The announcer also mentioned that there were target gift cards
on the table as a thank you as well. I didn’t think it was appropriate for me
to take any, so I left them there for others, politely excused myself and went
to the restroom. In the restroom, I ran in to “arm candy” Shirley. She was
polite and reintroduced herself. She told me that she was so happy to finally
meet AV Guy’s girlfriend. Um, excuse me? Finally meet his girlfriend? Oh, well
AV Guy has been talking about you for the past couple months and you haven’t
been able to come to any of the church activities because you are so busy with
work, so they are all so happy to finally meet the girl he’s been seeing. Oh,
right. That makes perfect sense. Great to meet you too Shirley. I go back in to
the party room and grab a Target gift card from the table. I have earned it.
At this point, I’m completely dumbfounded. I ask AV Guy
about that conversation and he just says that Shirley is a crazy old lady.
Really? How crazy can she be? I mean, did she really make all that up? Don’t
forget, I still have to go to this improve comedy show. It feels like a never
ending night. At least I don’t have to talk with people during the show and people
won’t be staring at me. On the walk over to the improve theater, 3 couples
walked up to us, introduced themselves, and mentioned how excited they were to
FINALLY meet me. Yes, they all said, “finally” meet me. We head in to the
theater and sit down. Thank goodness nothing happens during the show. During
intermission, I head to the restroom again (I need a freaking break from this
situation). I run in to preggo Tiffany and she asks me if AV Guy gave me the
invitation to her baby shower yet. Well no, he hasn’t. She lets me know the
date and time in case he lost the invitation over the past week or two. Yes, AV
Guy has carried on this lie to the extent that people are inviting me to their
baby showers. At this point, I have made the decision that I no longer need to
be polite or liked by these people. I let her know that I’ll check my schedule then
head straight for the bar. I get a beer and head back to my seat. The Baptists don’t
seem too thrilled about my drink of choice, but by this time, I don’t care at
all. All I want to do is get out of there as fast as possible. We watch the
rest of the show and I praise the lord that the night is coming to an end. But
wait, we need a group picture first! Of course we do. I do my best to inch out
of the theater to avoid it, but damn Shirley notices and grabs me. I then mention
that I’m good at taking pictures and that I should be the one to take the
picture. That also didn’t fly. So now if you go to the Houston Baptist Church
and look through their AV photo album, you will see me in their holiday picture
smiling and holding a beer.
On the ride home, I didn’t say I word. We got to my car and
I said goodnight. I think AV guy knew that we weren’t ever going to talk again.
Listening to Salt-N-Pepa (don't judge, it's awesome).
Turtle Calls. Yes, you read it right, turtle calls. You can
pay this guy to call someone you know and act like a turtle. Intrigued? You
should be! He is America’s Turtle Call Leader. You may be wondering, do
you consider a turtlecall a prank call? Don’t worry, they have answered this
question one the website: “no, it is a friendship call and it
is meant to make a smile happen and not an aggravated face” In fact, I think the
holidays are a perfect time of year for you to send a turtlecall and show them
you care!
You know the dance craze, The Dougie, but this is
even better. For those Harry Potter Fans out there, you will love this
video: Teach Me How to Dobby! Favorite
line: Butter beer so you know this is lastin’ all night!
