Monday, December 15, 2008

Because people say you are supposed to reflect on the year...

As the New Year approaches, a lot of people look over the past year and reflect. I absolutely hate that idea, but I did it unwillingly this morning, and here is what I came up with.

1. My employer will not fire anyone. Does this stop me from working ridiculous hours? No. Why? I have no idea. I guess I need to get a better grasp on my work/life balance… especially since I would have to go completely crazy before they let me go.

2. You can’t make someone like you. It’s kinda like the song: I Can’t Make You Love Me If You Don’t by Bonnie Rait. Not that I’m looking to make anyone love me, but I think it goes the same for friendships, work relationships, or anything. If someone doesn’t like you, there isn’t a way to make them. It’s only taken me about 25 years to figure that out, but I think that puts me pretty far ahead of the game compared to some people. I have never referenced Bonnie Rait before, and hopefully when I reflect on this fairly lame blog, I will realize that I should never do it again.

3. Running a marathon isn’t that hard. Yeah, it takes a little bit of commitment and a nice pair of running shoes, but that’s about it. Don’t ever think otherwise. Marathoners want you to think that it’s some difficult feat... it’s just not.

4. I have spent countless hours thinking about and going out with men that I truly don’t care about. It was brought to my attention the other day that I have not dated someone I actually care about it quite some time. Sure, I go out with people and have fun, and if I don’t go out with them, how am I going to know if I will end up caring about them, but overall, I accept a date for the fact that later on will be a good story to tell. My dating has now turned into entertainment. Yes, I think that dating should be entertaining, but I shouldn’t be dating someone just to be entertained. I even accept dates with people that I know are completely emotionally unavailable because it makes it easier for me to focus on the entertainment. Of course I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, but when the guy doesn’t really care about me anyway, it’s much less likely that I will hurt his feelings. Now that I have realized this in my painful reflection of the year, what am I going to do about it? Well, absolutely nothing. Why do you ask? Because who the hell wants to date a Texan anyway!

5. Ben & Jerry’s Ice Cream always makes everything better… even if you are lactose intolerant.

6. Most people in the world are good at heart. I know, I sound like Anne Frank, but I’m not hiding in an attic, so there’s a bit of a difference. I’ve run in to many people over the past year that mean well. Most people want to help, be a friend, and make other’s have a better life. The people you run in to on a daily basis that cause you grief are probably just having a rough day.

7. Celebrity gossip will age you. If you are caught up in what all the celebrities are doing, you miss out on your own life.

8. Playing with dogs will always put a smile on my face.

So I guess those are the things that I have reflected on this morning when I have looked back at my year. I am sure that I could come up with many more lessons, but that would require me to spend more than 10 minutes on this. It would also require me to reflect more, and I don’t really think that’s something I’m going to do, so hopefully this wonderful insight will work. I know… I am so insightful, right?

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